Enabling & Drug Addiction
Enabling our loved ones worsens Drug & Alcohol Addiction
Enabling our loved ones does not help Drug & Alcohol Addiction.Over the years, Holly Conklin, owner of Angel Intervention Services, has seen many troubling situations in which drug addicts support networks contributed to their addictive behavior. A question in an article from Huffington post titled “When You Enable an Addict You’re Not Helping, You’re Hurting,” is worth some consideration if you are considering an intervention to help a loved one with substance abuse issues. In the article, the simple question is asked “Do you have an addicted loved one in your life? Are you already aware that you’re doing things you probably shouldn’t be doing, in the guise of ‘helping’ them?”
When You’re Enabling an Addict You’re Not Helping,
Often, friends or family will be enabling the addictive behavior without even knowing. Drug addicts support structures are often comprised of friends and family that contribute money, help with bills, spending cash, costs of living and transportation. Typically, an addict needs to rely on others for basic needs so they can continue to keep up their substance abuse habit. Some drug users have stolen from loved ones or pawned household items to get their next fix.
It is important that once those close to an addict realize the addiction is out of control and in need of professional intervention support, that financial or other support is not given to the addict which enables the behavior to continue. As mentioned in the Huffington Post article “When this kind of enabling occurs on a regular basis, the loved ones lose their own sense of self-respect and the addict has no reason to do anything differently. The dysfunctional, addictive behaviors continue — because the most effective way to stop addiction is to stop the enabling that so often accompanies it.”
Many families, especially parents, find it hard to cut a loved one off from support or find it impossible to approach these topics, so hiring a certified intervention professional is the best way to make sure these sensitive issues can be handled successfully.
A drug intervention is a process in which family members or friends close to an addict seek professional help to offer drug rehabilitation to a person close to them without the drug addict knowing it’s coming. Frequently, a drug addict will be so deep into their addiction that family or friends start noticing something is wrong. Some users need a drug intervention to pull them from the addiction by any means necessary to avoid worsening physical or mental symptoms. For others, their addiction may have led to arrest, financial troubles or other legal consequences that require them to be more accountable and seek attention at a drug rehab facility. When attempting a drug intervention to convince a regular drug user to go to a substance abuse rehab and change their lifestyle, naturally they will try to avoid it at all costs, often trying to manipulate the circumstances or use family history or other dramas to avoid changing their situation. Without professional assistance, a drug intervention attempt could lead to an addict running away, using more than the usual amount of drugs after the confrontation or even physical violence towards others or property.
If you or your family are considering attempting a drug intervention on a loved one, please contact Holly Conklin at Angel Intervention Services for advice on an intervention plan. Many times working with a successful interventionist can mean the difference between an addict recovering, or spiraling further out of control. An intervention plan can be developed with Angel Intervention that factors in family circumstances, financial goals, medical conditions and any other factors that need to be considered to ensure the drug addict agrees to change their lifestyle and get healthy during the intervention. For more information, please contact Angel Intervention Services.